I’m not sure what’s going on in the Universe, but over the past two weeks I’ve found myself asked more relationship advice than I’ve been asked for over the past YEAR. Now to add another level of amusement to that, my own relationship status on Facebook recently changed to “It’s Complicated”…and it REALLY IS…lol! I always wondered what would have to happen to make someone change their status to that, and now I know…rofl!
- Thou shalt assume positive intent with your partner. What this means is that you give them the benefit of the doubt in things, and don’t automatically assume negative intent. After all, if you’re in a relationship, you should care deeply about this person and there’s a certain amount of trust inherent in that. That does NOT mean that if you walk in and find your partner butt naked in bed with another person that this isn’t exactly what it looks like! And don’t let them off the hook that easy. I’m sorry, but I wouldn’t buy the, “I tripped and fell naked inside your best friend, who also happened to be naked” excuse here. But, unfortunately, I know lots of people – both women and men who have bought that kind of reasoning. There’s assuming positive intent and then there’s letting yourself be a doormat. Use common sense and go with your gut!
2. Game playing does NOT a good relationship make. This means all the ‘buying yourself flowers in an effort to make him jealous’, ‘spraying yourself with another woman’s perfume to make her “appreciate you more”, “leaving stuff at his apartment so you have an ‘excuse’ to call him, ‘pretending to get calls or texts from other men to make him realize that you’re a ‘hot’ commodity and everything else that falls into this ‘game player’ category is total manipulation and bull, and has no place in a mature relationship that encompasses all the good traits I listed above in my affirmation.